“The wise speak only of what they know.”
~ J.R.R Tolkien
The above quote is one that may be a good reminder to us all and to me to stay on this path. Especially in this climate of society where the internet gives us the ability to share freely our thoughts everywhere. I completely understand where Tolkien was coming from here. I am a bit of a perfectionist for myself and a very tough self critic, so I would never speak about something I did not fully research, or understand as much as I can or experience for myself.
I do believe it comes from having a slight fear about being wrong, so if I don’t really know something I will not talk about it with confidence, I will simply admit that I don’t know and keep quiet about that particular subject until I do. I feel I can only offer others true wisdom from my experiences.
I do see that there are many in society that take “wild” leaps of faith, assumptions and guesses about topics without having much knowledge on things. Although I cringe a bit inside when I see that wild abandon for true knowledge in people, I always can appreciate that bravery to speak up about something they don’t fully know about. They are not afraid of looking “wrong” or “inaccurate”. It is about expressing themselves regardless if they are right or not. There is a bit of a danger with that though, I do see.
Right now the biggest example in society is on the new movie Cuties. I watched it fully so that I could be in the “know” and really see for myself what is causing all the controversy. Yet, I do see people who have never seen it (they openly admit they have not seen it yet) and start to take wild guesses about it and ideas about it or the director that are simply not true and you learn it only when you fully see it. It is not a matter of believing it to be right or wrong, it is a matter of actually knowing what you can speak about and make a fair judgement about. It happens all the time on social media, and I sit there in wonder how they can talk about something they have no knowledge about?
So I guess I am like Tolkien a bit where I do attribute wisdom with experience and with experience it often gives us personal permission or allowance to share our knowledge on things. I feel it’s a bit unnecessary to give opinion or talk about something I know nothing about first hand, like wasted energy. To me that is how rumors are spread. a lie built around ignorance, and can be an agenda to skew the truth as an intention. Some people may not mean it when they speak about someone politically in this world, yet don’t really fully research about that person. Celebs, presidents and organizations are falsely accused of things they did not intend or do, all the time this way.
There is a part of me that does think if people did live by this quote then there will be less wrongful judgements, false assumptions, inaccurate claims going around in the world about one another. Maybe this is the answer to peace and to my staying peaceful? I just don’t speak about someone or voice my opinion unless I am confident that I know something with lots of research and can bring in my personal experience to help the situation and not make the confusion worse for others.
I think when we speak about something we don’t know anything about, it is not adding any truth to the situation and that is a bit of a distraction and a confusion. However, I fully believe there is nothing wrong in admitting that you don’t know something and being honest about it. I think that is more of a sign of courage when I see people do that online and help each other understand the process of getting to the truth takes work and not leaping to assumptions inside.
We are all in the process of learning, relearning and growing on this journey and we should never feel ashamed for what we don’t know or understand. We should look at it as an opportunity to grow and a space within our minds where we can expand our consciousness and broaden our horizons. When I realized this, I now don’t feel badly about not knowing everything, because I know we are all in the process of gaining information at different times in our lives.
What you focus on in your life, you study it. So learning is really just about shifting your focus to what you want to fill your mind with and build experience upon and after you do you will have your wisdom to share with others to help them on their own journey.